As you all know, we built a house for Fred in December. She is living there now and doing okay. There are a number of things that you should all know. Firstly, she looks better and seems to be doing better all the way around since we lifted her off the ground. So we did a good thing. I do not want to invade her privacy, but at the same time I think that it is important that we recognize that the situation that brought her to this is connected to her mental health and so there are things that she will and will not allow which might be a little unusual to those of us who are mentally well.
I share this because it is important to know that she rejected a few pieces of her build. She did not want to have hooks to hang her coat and other items, she also rejected the smoke and carbon monoxide tester. Further to this, she also did not want to have a kitchen cupboard to cook on and also did not want to have a butane cooker. She also did not want to have a propane stove for heating.
This said, without the smoke and carbon monoxide tester, a butane cooker or propane heat would be NOT be safe. Frankly, I am not sure that it would be the best idea to trust her to manage the stove anyway. I would not want the very house that we built in order to give her some degree of safety, to be the thing that killed her because she is unable to take care of the heat situation properly due to her mental health.
So this is a bind isn’t it?
However, the important thing to note here is that how she has chosen to heat and cook as well as to warm water for personal hygiene is with candles. The candles which work best for her area available at Walmart. There are two kinds which she uses. The first are jumbo tea light candles which are $9.99 for a large package. The others are in a jar scented candles there are small ones for $1 each. These are placed in the two metal containers that we got her and are on a table so they are contained just as they would be in your own home. I feel that she manages this well. However, this also means that she has an $80/month bill for candles which given the fact that this is her heat, light and cooking and since she pays no rent on her house it is not such a terrible living expense but it is not great either!
Also there is the issue of her needing to eat, clean her house and also have some dignity, which for her is having containers of water to clean herself and her home, doing laundry, and wearing a little bit of makeup.
Getting to the point, last night I brought her to Walmart for groceries, cleaning supplies, water, and candles. The bill was $414.97 and I will also bring her to do laundry tomorrow which will be another $30 or so dollars I imagine.
There was (until last evening) a small surplus in the account that was set up to get her house built however, there have been no further donations to help support her.
Unfortunately, I cannot afford to support her so I am hoping that some of you might be willing and able to donate. If so you can do do here: https://www.youcaring.com/fundraiser-widget.aspx?frid=480688“>FRED’s HOUSE
If you are in the Hamilton Area and you would LIKE to donate but do not feel comfortable donating cash please consider dropping by Walmart to pick up some jumbo tealight candles, some jarred scented candles, an LED camping light with batteries, bottled water, canned food or gift cards for Walmart or Tim Hortons. She is allergic to nuts so please no peanut butter! If this is your preference to you please write to me here or on Facebook and we can work together to get these items to her.
Thank you to all of you who are invested in her well being!